Sometimes we get what we want in unexpected ways. This is something Becky Pollard and her husband Stan found out 13 years ago when they received their baby boy.
The couple didn’t think of adopting when they began planning a family. They tried for 10 years with no luck.
When Becky discovered she was pregnant, they thought they had finally done it. Much to their dismay, the couple lost the baby.
It wasn’t long after this when the pastor at their church asked if they would like to adopt a baby. He knew of a woman who was pregnant and looking for a good family for the child she carried.
She asked that the couple be one that could not have children of their own and of the Christian faith. Four other families from the church fit the bill and wanted the child.
The pastor prayed and thought of who should have this baby. He told the Pollards that he just kept coming back to them. This was their child.
They were told several times that the baby would be a girl and so they prepared. The biological mother had her doubts about the baby’s gender and when Becky and her husband got to the hospital they saw the words “Pollard, Male.”
“It was a boy,” said Becky. She said they had only brought girl clothes for the baby along with a pink car seat. Before taking him home they were given boy clothes and a boy car seat.
Becky said all the people who gave them gifts at the baby shower just days before, picked up their gifts and exchanged them to fit a boy.
Becky said she was not concerned with the gender of the child and was pleased to be chosen to have this baby.
“She had him for us” said Becky. The Pollards named him Jonah and took him home, but they were not out of the woods yet.
They still had to pass a home inspection and wait for a final decree to finally call him theirs. Becky said the days after the inspection were hard.
“I was stressed. It was scary because to me that was my son,” said Becky. She said the thought that he could be taken away was simply terrifying.
Since then, Becky, Stan and Jonah have had the same trials and pleasures of any family. Although Jonah was told at an early age about his origin, he decided he knew who his parents were and felt no need to seek out his biological family.
Becky talked about the trials of raising an only boy and how her expectations and reality didn’t always match.
“I thought adopting meant everything is perfect,” said Becky. She said she thought an adopted child would know how much their parents loved them because they adopted them and it would be rosy.
She said there are just as many trials as any other family though. Because he doesn’t see them any different than other children see their parents, he still pushes his luck like any other child.
Becky is also a working mother. She said early on she felt like she was missing out by working but now at an age where social interaction is important she feels comfortable working while he has his own life.
The Pollards decided that public school did not provide the environment or role models they wanted for their son after several issues arose.
After a challenging semester of homeschooling Becky applied for Victory Life Academy.
“I never thought we could get him into Victory life. That would be too awesome,” she said.
She had also thought they couldn’t adopt but that worked out. With that in mind she applied and after his interview he was accepted.
Becky and Stan now enjoy parental life with Jonah who is a student of Victory Life and an active member of the local Boys and Girls Club.